Courtesy; C H MAHADEVAN
Here is a small story ...will really define how to be
happy...Who will make you happy...
After years of hard & dedicated service to his Company, Ajay
was being appointed at an elegant reception as the new Director. It was a
small function where his wife Anita , a Home Executive & some of the wives
of the other persons in top management were also present.
In an adjacent room, Ann, the wife of the CEO of the
Company, asked Ajay's wife a very odd & usual question; "Does your husband
make you happy?"
The husband, Ajay, who at that moment was not at her side,
but was sufficiently near to hear the question, paid attention to the
conversation, sitting up slightly, feeling secure, even filling his chest
lightly in pride & hope, would definitely not publically lower or degrade
her husband, would answer affirmatively, since she had always been there for
him during their marriage and generally in life.
Nevertheless, to both his & the others' surprise, she
replied simply; "No, no he doesn't make me happy…"The room became
uncomfortably silent, as if everyone were listening to the spouse's response.
There was a sudden coldness in the air. The husband was petrified. A frown
appeared on his face.
He couldn't believe what his wife was saying, especially at such
an important occasion for him. To the amazement of her husband & of
everyone! Anita sat up firmly & explained in a modest but stern tone to the
other wives who were present;
"No, he doesn't make me happy… I AM HAPPY. The fact that I am
happy or not doesn't depend on him, but on me. GOD has granted each of us
intellect & discretion to reason, interpret & decide. GOD made me the
person upon which my happiness depends.
I make the choice to be happy in each situation & in each
moment of my life.
If my happiness were to depend on other people, on other things or
circumstances on the face of this earth, I would be in serious trouble! Over my
life I have learned a couple of things: I decide to be happy & the rest is
a matter of 'experiences or circumstances' like helping, understanding,
accepting, listening, consoling & with my spouse, I have lived &
practiced this many times.
Honestly true happiness lies in being content"
Relieved & reassured, a smile was clearly noticed on
Ajay's face.
Happiness will always be found in contentment, forgiveness &
in loving ourselves & others.
To truly love is difficult, it is to forgive unconditionally, to
live, to take the "experiences or circumstances" as they are, facing
them together & being happy with conviction.
There are those who say I cannot be happy :
Because I am sick.
Because I have no money.
Because it's too cold.
Because they insulted me.
Because someone stopped loving me.
Because someone didn't appreciate me.
But what they don't know is that they can be happy even though
sick, whether it is too hot, whether they have money or not, whether someone
has insulted them, or someone didn't love or hasn't valued them.
Being Happy is an attitude about life & each one of us must
decide!Being Happy, depends on us! It Depends on Me.
I fall. I rise. I make mistakes. I live. I learn. I've been hurt
but I'm alive. I'm human. I'm not perfect but I'm Thankful.
